“The question of what you want to own is actually
the question of how you want to live your life.” – Marie Kondo.
Home, it’s the one place that accepts you for who you are. You can kick off your shoes, walk around in your underwear, and show your every emotion without holding back. Your home holds all the things that rejuvenate you, so you can confidently go out and face the world. So how does your home support your ideal lifestyle? Is your home like a museum filled with artifacts of who you once were? Or does it nurture the person you are now, and the person you’re becoming?
Many people like to clean out their homes at the end of the year. However, clutter doesn’t just come in the form of your possessions. A toxic relationship, bad habits, and traumatic memories take up space in our minds and cause much stress and anxiety. As we reflect on this year’s memories, we can apply the KonMari method used to tidying to our memories as well. Cherish the things and thoughts we love, and learn from our mistakes and let go.
This year, instead of focusing on just one New Year’s resolution, try to imagine your ideal life as a whole. Think about what brings you joy and what’s important in your life that you want more of. If it changes you wish you make in the new year, for example, if you want to lose weight, then picture yourself putting healthy food and fresh vegetables in your fridge. Imagine yourself enjoying a work out to a video in your living room, on a yoga mat you love. Thinking about quitting smoking or drinking? Is the source of these habits due to stress from your job? Envision yourself responding differently to a frustrating situation, maybe you are doing something relaxing to combat the negative emotions. If you are looking for a romantic relationship? Imagine hanging out in your home on a Friday night, what does the living room look like? Are there candles? Cuddling under a chenille blanket while watching a movie? Even if there’s no love interest yet, you can still make your home inviting so there’s no last minute panic when you happen to meet the right person.
Having a vision of your ideal life is the most important step before doing any decluttering. To reconnect with yourself, you might want to ask the following questions:
What positive traits do I want people to know about me?
How do I cultivate my playful side?
Where do I find inspirations?
What area do I want to grow?
What did I enjoy doing as a child? Do I still enjoy those things?
If money was no object, what is my ideal work environment? Or where would I want to live?
Write down your answers or picture yourself in those moments. Envision as much detail as possible. Where you are, what you are doing, what’s around you? Who you are with? This is your happy place, your joyful life. They are just thoughts, so don’t be afraid to let your imagination go as long as you are being truthful to what sparks joy for you.
Now, look around your home. Does it support your vision? Can you spot what doesn’t fit into that ideal? Has the piano you loved playing become a place to stack paper? Does your kitchen counter have room for baking with your children like you did as a child with your family? Is there clutter covering up the beautiful wood table? Is your home tidy so you can invite friends over without feeling self-conscious?
When you envision the whole picture, you can begin to take action. Starting with your possessions, keep only the things that have meaning to you, things that add joy and support your needs. When you can be honest with yourself, and not hold on to things or thoughts due to fear or guilt, your home will begin to love you back. You will save time, money, and energy that you can put towards more of what you love.
Take a look at all the before and after images on my website. When I started with these clients, there was always some skepticism knowing they’ve lived with the clutter for years. The surprise comes after about 5 hours of work, the part of their home they once wanted to avoid has become a welcoming sight. The closets inspired them to dress in clothes that make them feel confident and comfortable. The kitchens inspired them to start cooking again. And each person gained insights about themselves and gained a sense of happiness and freedom. When they simplified their spaces, they made room for joy.
I want to take this opportunity to thank you for reading my blog. It’s part of my vision to be able to help change people’s lives while doing something I’m passionate about. I wish you all a very joyful new year. May your home to be a reflection of your happiness, and a positive source of energy. Enjoy living as your authentic self in 2018 and years to come.